Does An Individual Deserves Infinite Chances?

I honestly don't believe that a person deserves infinite chances. No matter if it is a family member or your best friend it just doesn't feel right. When you have a person who hurts you the first time, it's obvious that you would give them a second chance. When they do it the second time you give them a third chance. Then the cycle goes on and they hurt you on purpose four, five, six, seven, and a hundred times.

It's kind of crazy to me what a human can go through and how long they can take it. Some people can take over a hundred hurts and they'll be alright. That is until they explode right in front of you. After all, a human being can only take so much.

There are individuals in this world who hurts you on purpose. Then they expect you to give them another chance because of this close relationship between the two of you. Mother, father, son, best friends, neighbors, and the list goes on and on.

When it comes to life, I can't help but wonder. Does an individual deserves infinite chances?

Bromance Denied, Wild Girls Granted?

One thing I noticed about going to a karaoke club is that everyone is welcome to go there. I am excited that I am at the legal age of go inside. When you walk inside a club you finally get the chance to say "Triple shot of Vodka." I am not twenty one years old yet, but I get excited every time they say something like that.

On this particular night, I began to raise questions regarding a recent incident. Everyone was completely sober in the room when I walked in. No one even took a sip of their drinks. This gave me a chance to see how people act when they are sober.

One hour after being in the room, the music started flowing nicely, and the drinks were coming from everywhere. This was the first time I ever had to tell someone ten times that I am underage. The next song that came on was Dynamite by Taio Cruz. Whenever that song came on, everyone goes crazy. Every time that song is played everyone is kissing each other.

Suddenly, the owner of the club started asking people to come on stage and show affection. These one group of friends decided to go up there. Two girls and two guys. They were dancing all over the place while I was sitting in the middle of the room, watching where everything took place.

Ten minutes later, the affection began. You can look at them and know they don't date the same sex. One girl and one guy were dating each other. The four of them has been best friends since childhood and were always not afraid to show affection in front of each other. The two guys kissed each other first. They were showing off true bromance. I turned around to see their reaction. Some of them were raising their eyebrows. Then the girls kissed each other and everyone went wild.

Three hours later, I walked out of that place feeling extremely confused. The crowd know that the two guys are just best friends, but they still felt a little disgusted that they kissed. As for the girls, they didn't mind it at all. Instead, they wanted to be a part of it. Once I got home, the incident got me thinking.

Why do people mostly want to see women act wild than men show true bromance?

You're In Love With Your Best Friend. Now What?

There comes a time in each of our lives when the ultimate question pops up once in our heads. One day, you will begin to look at your best friend in a different way. There are a couple of images that has never appeared in your mind before when it came to your best friend. Whenever they walk past you, you begin to get tiny butterflies floating in your stomach. What you're feeling is the ultimate debate.

You are in love with your best friend and you don't know what to do with it. You don't know if you should tell them or not tell them. It's the number one debate when it comes to friendships in our society. The main reason the question has become debatable is due to the fact that you don't know what is going to be the outcome after you ask your best friend the big question.

Across the world, best friends have been asked this question, and it ended in mixed results. On one side, the best friend turns out has been feeling the same way. It takes the stress off and the two of them ended up being together. Then on another side, the question completely devastated the individual and it resulted in the friendship being over for good. There are some friends that haven't spoken to each other in years.

When it comes to life, your best friend is the person that knows you inside and out. Even if you are close to your parents, this one individual knows you inside and out. They have known you for years. They have your back even when they know you are wrong. It's the one person that gives you the ultimate attention and you give it back to them in return.

But there comes a time in our lives when the ultimate question arises. The two of you have hung out long enough to have these feelings brewing inside. You may love this person, but falling in love has become a complete shocker in your brain. Now you are stuck, not knowing what to do with these feelings. Will the question transform this friendship into something better, or will it erupt like a volcano and burn to a crisp.

When it comes to friendships, what do you do when you find out that you're in love with your best friend. Do you tell them or not tell them?

Has Your Best Friend Become Your Career?

Are you the best friend? I am not talking about the ordinary best friend. I am talking about "the" best friend.

In life, we are given this one best friend who sort of have became your brother/sister. There is no conflict. There is no arguing. Whenever you guys hang out, you're enjoying each other's company and having a good time. Life can be very difficult sometimes. Sometimes, all you need is your best friend's voice to calm you down. You can vent until your body loses 80% of it's blood and your best friend will still be there on the other line.

Of course, there comes a time when arguing and disagreements occurs between your friendship. Life is not 100% positive. But if your friendship bond is that strong, you can overcome whatever comes your way.

Once you've realized you have a tight bond you begin to realize something else. You look closely at everything you are doing in your everyday life. If more than 60% of your life is surrounding your best friend you begin to worry if your life is being truly consumed by the needs of your significant other. They will call you at 4 o'clock in the morning asking for a favor. Even though it's early to be doing anything around that time, you will get out of bed and still do it. Because that is how much of a best friend you are. Before you know it, you are getting more than a dozen phone calls from that person and 50% of them revolves around doing favors.

In life, we count on our best friends to do everything for us. They come over to your sleepovers. They come to the club together. If you are that experimental you might even invite them for a threesome. But when do you take a second and realize that you've sacrificed a large portion of your life to be there for your best friend.

When it comes to friendships, has your best friend become your career?

Can Tops and Bottoms Truly Be Friends?

Here in the 21st century of our world, everyone has chosen to be versatile. A large percentage of the LGBT community doesn't talk about their sexual positions. They don't talk about because they are comfortable doing both positions. But for some people, they don't want to tell people if they are a top or a bottom. It is all a secret until they get down in the bedroom and reveal who they really are.

As I get older and meet more new and interesting people, I couldn't help but notice something that has been secretly going on lately. On one end, there are a group of tops. Then on the other end, there are a group of bottoms. It was like a clique that was secretly created. They are not even worrying about being friends with the other positions. The last time they attempted to become friends they couldn't avoid the sexual chemistry and ended becoming a two night stand night on the same night.

Looking at that reminded of the movie When Harry Met Sally. Through Harry's perspective, men and women can't be friends without thinking about having sex first. But yet, he was friends with Sally, a woman throughout the entire movie. Of course, they ended up having sex with each other, but it mostly happened because the other one was feeling comfort for the other person. The majority of us accepted that incident because we all knew that Harry and Sally were meant to be together.

That incident was kind of a reflection of that movie. Just add a little LGBT sexual chemistry and you have the movie right there in front of you. When it comes to two men being together, they can't help but go forward with the special feeling they have lying dormant within them. They don't know the reason on how it was being triggered. Either they are incredibly horny or it's a feeling they have to go for because they never felt that way before. But is there ever a time when the tension can cool down and it will remain as a cool friendship?

When it comes to sex and life can tops and bottoms truly be friends?

Friendship or True Love? Which One Is More Important?

There is a new romantic comedy film coming out entitled "Something Borrowed." It's based on the bestselling novel by Emily Giffin. The trailer was just released not too long ago. I have been replaying the trailer for so long right now, it inspired me to write this post and friendships and relationships.

This novel tells the story of two friends named Rachel and Darcey. They have been friends since childhood, but they are both different in many ways. Rachel has been the good girl and best friend of Darcey since childhood. She does anything for Darcey, but has been her shadow for quite some time now.

When it comes to Darcey, she has been the person in center staged almost her whole life. Between the two of them, Darcey always gets what she wants and Rachel just goes with the flow.

Rachel turns thirty and ends up completely drunk. It results in Rachel sleeping with Darcey's fiance, Dexter, who Rachel had a crush on back when they were in law school. The fling turns into an affair, and Rachel has to choose which one is more important to her, friendship or true love.

The entire description of the story made me run out and get this novel. Not only because it's a romantic comedy story, but it's number one theme is friendship. Most people don't realize that friends go through alot more than what couples go through. I hope this novel and the movie will make people want to write more stories about friendships.

There comes a time in each of our lives when we each have to choose between friendship and love. Our friends are people that we treasure most dearly. Your friends have known you for years. They know you inside and out the same way you do when it comes to them. Then love comes into your life and it starts raising alot of questions. Will this relationship change the dynamic of your relationship with your friends.

Will you find a way to balance everything together and still maintain a successful friendship while having a wonderful relationship? Or will you up having to choose which one is more important to you.

When it comes to friendships, which one is more important. Friendship or True Love?

Below is the trailer for "Something Borrowed." The movie comes out May 6.

Is The Best Friend Allowed To Date?

Everyone has that best friend in their life. It's that person that does everything for you? He/She is the first person you call at three o'clock in the morning. Shockingly, they will answer the phone. If you have a friend like that you are a lucky person.

They have been in your life for the longest. But the one thing I've noticed is that the best friend is hardly in a relationship due to the fact that they current relationship he/she deals with is the one with the best friend. Whenever the best friend gets out of a relationship, you are there to heal the wounds and telling them to move on. You treat your role as the best friend as if it is a career.

Of course it isn't a career, but you begin to think it is because you spend more time with them than you with your own life. Then it finally reaches a point when your life surrounds it completely. Once it's finally time for you to start dating it's very difficult.

After realizing this with not only others, but my own personal and professional life, it got me thinking.

Is the best friend allowed to date when their lives surrounds being the true companion?

Zolra's Corner: Lovers Before Friends? Shouldn't It Be The Other Way Around?

In life, friends are everything. Whenever you need to hang out with somebody on Friday night your friend is one phone call away. Whenever you have something you need to get off your chest they'll be there to listen. If you want to just check on that person, they'll answer your call, even at four in the morning.

Friendship has become the most important thing of an individual's life. But what happened years ago that changed the way we look at connections?

Weeks ago, I hung out with my best friend for a day of chilling at the pool since it was blazing hot outside. We had a great day. Nothing felt more exciting than hanging out with your best friends.

Then the whole feeling turned to a different direction when my best friend told me that he liked me and wanted to date. We've only known each other as friends for two weeks and he instantly wanted to jump into another relationship. He shared a kiss with me in order to prove it.

I respected his opinion on wanting to date, but that's not what I wanted for the two of us. Through my eyes, we were great friends and nothing else. Since all of my high school buddies are across the world and all the people I used to hang out with after graduation were the people I've dated, I felt like I wanted to have a strong friendship.

When that day was over he continued expressing his feelings and it hasn't changed even till this day. I walked away from him and haven't seen him physically for a while. His opinion on our friendship was something I still needed to think about.

The next day I began thinking about friendships and relationships, mostly in the LGBT community. Whenever we meet someone new, it turns into a relationship days later. The person just jumped past the friendship barrier and continued with dating. It's like friendship never even happened for the last few days. I've seen it happen to alot of my friends. I, myself, did that before.

Whenever I met someone new, it would turn into a relationship immediately. I never got the time to know this person as a friend, I jumped the broom and instantly went to dating. Now that I'm single and alone with none of my friends around, I began to develop new friendships.

When it comes to knowing a person, how did it change from a stranger that turns into your boyfriend the next day?

Zolra's Corner: The LGBT Connection

One thing I love about being an 18 year old openly gay male is that I have a long journey ahead of me. I don't think I haven't even started yet. I think I am still in the car waiting for the engine to work with me. Because of this, I have a whole bunch of material to create. Day to day life is what keeps me outside to work on several projects.

I consider myself a socialite. I love being around my friends and new people. Each of their lives are 10% similar, but they are 90% different. Whenever there is an event coming up that interest me, I would go there in a second, especially when I'm invited by a friend. I do have my limits. None of my friends know where I live. We're not that close yet.

One night, I went out with my best friend for a night at the club. It's the first time I've been out in a long time due to my crazy schedule. We went to different clubs and danced the night away. It feels great hanging out with your friends. Relationships are special too, but friends stay longer according million dollar socialites and business people. Once midnight finally arrived, the night was more interesting and mysterious than I thought.

The two of us happened to run into our ex-boyfriends that same night. One was drunk out of his mind while the other looked like he could handle three bottles of any beverage. Then I looked on the other side of the street. One of my former co-workers were hanging around this club I usually walk around. My ex pointed at him and they gave each other a huge bear hug. Me and my best friend walked a few steps back. We were completely shocked at what was going on. Turns out my co-worker used to date him just like how my ex tried to make moves at my best friend before I knew any of them.

I walked away feeling confused. One thing I always try to do is to make my personal and professional life private. If I ever dated anyone, it will be someone that doesn't know anybody I know and I don't know anybody he knows. I tried the whole dating connections thing. It always worked out for the worst.

Me being a fan of the horror, thriller, science fiction, and fantasy genres, I couldn't help but to study this weird connection that is going on right in front of our eyes.

Something I've noticed is that the LGBT community are connected like an invisible rope, especially in the performing arts. We do have heterosexual friends that love us, but gay folks are rising above them in numbers. All of my friends are in the film/television, theatre, fashion, and music industry. In some ways, that is great. I love creativity. I have been attracted to that for a long time. I'm sure that's one reason why I've dated people in the arts.

I love having friends in Maryland and New York. However, one tiny problem with that is that everybody knows everybody. When you want to get to know somebody professionally or personally, it becomes very uncomfortable because they know people around you and you know people around them. If you don't like somebody it will be hard to get rid of them due to the connection.

After me and my best friend left the club with huge questions ringing in our heads, it got me thinking.

In the LGBT community, does having large connections be a positive thing, or will it lead us to a negative, emotional, downward spiral most of the time?