Heaven has a New Blogger: Taylor Siluwé

My heart is filled with such sadness as I have to announce that our community has lost another member. New Jersey-based author Taylor Siluwé died Sunday afternoon at home after losing his battle to lung cancer at 43-years-old.
Siluwé was the author of several novels of erotica, such as Dancing With The Devil, A Taste for Cherries and Cheesy Porn and Other Fairytales. Siluwé also wrote short stories, essays and blogged about LGBT news, activism and gay life at SGLCafe.com.



Taylor you will be missed and it was really nice to get that email from you just last week saying that you loved me brother and the words I shared with you were truly from my heart! You were a huge inspiration for the Christopher Street TV series and were on set as a background player for our pilot, which meant so much to me… I have great memories or brunch in the Village and hearing stories on how you support me even when the community was not on my side... Thank you for not judging me and being there in that time of need. It meant a lot to me.

I know you are still blogging up there in heaven… Love you!!!

Dwight Allen O'Neal

In Memory of Dariel Pulliam

I am so sad to report news that I have prayed was not true all day… The Future Forward’s friend and fellow gaylebrity Dariel Pulliam has passed away on today and he will be greatly missed. I have many memories of Dariel Pulliam; however the one that I will cherish the most is of him giving me love advice over frozen drinks at BBQ’s. Dariel you showed me so much love when presenting at the 2010 Blatino Awards and being the first presenter to show up on time and beat from head to toe really showed your professional attitude and passion for others… You will be greatly missed; however I know that you are with our father looking down on us all. I love you my brother, my friend, and fellow STAR!

Please check out the fun interview I did with Dariel on last summer, I had such a great time with him.

Also please lend a hand by assisting his family with his burial at:

PO BOX 47001 Windsor Mill, MD 21244

For More Details contact: Sparkle for Trio Management sparkle@trioent.com Our prayers and thoughts are with Dariel Pulliam’s family, friends, and loved ones!

If you knew where I am standing... If you could see the sights I see... If you could hear the angels singing... The songs they sing eternally... If you knew the One I’m holding... Could see the smile He smiles at me... If you knew where I am resting... You would not cry for me... I’m resting in the precious arms of Jesus... No other place would I rather be... So if you shed a tear, Please don’t shed it for me... If you knew where I am resting... You would not cry for me... I know you’re confused about my leaving you so soon... But I’ll be with you again... Maybe morning, night or noon... So I’ll save a place for you.... Right beside the crystal sea... If you knew where my mansion’s standing... You would not cry for me

Words of Encourgement

Have you ever had a day that you just needed some words of encouragement? Well today I am sharing five quotes that always cheer me up.

• It gets greater later! • I lost myself in you… with God found my way through you… So now I know I can live without you. • I am too blessed to be stressed. • Happy, Healthy, Wealthy • Whatever I want I can have!!!!

I hope these words encourage you, because they just lifted me up…

Body of ART

I always love to have the opportunity to admire someone's art and I really love when the art is displayed on a VERY sexy canvas. Ricardo Muniz is a very talented photographer and artist and his latest video has really been creating quite a buzz on the internet. Take a moment to admire his work and contact him to purchase your very own portrait of these sexy specimens. ABOUT Ricardo Muniz:

"Coquíchulo Images was created to provide artistic support of my own Latino community. I was a social worker and teacher working with people with severe issues for over 15 years. Before I decided to pursue my art—photography, puppetry, and body painting—I devoted myself and my work to help foster creativity and success within communities of color. I will say that my greatest work as an artist has been while working as a teacher. No job molds, shapes, creates, supports, directs, inspires and enables young people more than that of being a good and caring teacher. I made it a point to smile often as a teacher and as a social worker. I make it a point now to have fun while doing a shoot. Laughter goes far. At the end of the day, it’s not just a great shot that makes me smile: it’s looking back at the fun all of us had while creating it. For more information on the artist or the models or to volunteer your nekkid skin as a canvas for a body art project, please contact Ricardo Muñiz at coquichuloimages@yahoo.com. You may also see more of Ricardo’s work at http://ricardomuniz.solomodels.com"

Dishin it With Dwight: A New Earth with Oprah, Jay-Z, and Abdul

UPDATE--- UPDATE--- UPDATE---IT WAS FOR OWN!!!!

Oprah and Jay-Z's "New Earth"

Rumors are flying all over the net about The FUTURE’s very own honorary member Oprah Winfrey visiting Sean “Jay-Z” Carter’s old neighborhood in Brooklyin, NY. Jay and Oprah visited Bed Stuy on Lexington Ave. & Lewis Ave. Jay’s block before moving to Marcy Projects; but then spent some time in Marcy Projects. The rumor is that Oprah was filming for an upcoming show that Jay will be featured on and Jay was showing her where he came up; if you also look closely in the photo you will see that Jay is holding in his hand “A New Earth,” which is an amazing book that Oprah has supported with her book club. A New Earth written by Eckhart Tolle assist readers in creating their life’s purpose and it challenges you to look within yourself and make decisions that truly transform your way of thinking in return creating “a new earth” for you and those around you. With this book being in his hand I wonder did Oprah bring him a copy? Is Jay currently reading it? Or was he trying to impress Ms. Winfrey? Regardless of why he is holding the book if you want an awakening in you and want to start creating new possibilities for your own life you must read “A New Earth,” it changed my life.

A New Earth
Tolle tells us there is good news, however. There is an alternative to this potentially dire situation. Humanity now, perhaps more than in any previous time, has an opportunity to create a new, saner, more loving world. This will involve a radical inner leap from the current egoic consciousness to an entirely new one.In illuminating the nature of this shift in consciousness, Tolle describes in detail how our current ego-based state of consciousness operates. Then gently, and in very practical terms, he leads us into this new consciousness. We will come to experience who we truly are—which is something infinitely greater than anything we currently think we are—and learn to live and breathe freely.

My Personal Inspiration: Jason Bartlett

What better way to end the month than to recognize an individual who is African American, openly gay, a father, and has served as a political figure for our country. I had the wonderful opportunity to meet Jason Bartlett at a conference that we were both presenting at in West Palm Beach and I was instantly swept away with his charm. When meeting this very intelligent gentleman I was delighted to learn of all his accomplishments and to learn how humble and kind he is. I am the most excited to honor Jason Bartlett as my final inspiration for Black History Month and I challenge each of you to discover your own inspirations for your individual lives.

Jason Bartlett is an American businessman and politician from Connecticut. A Democrat, he was a member of the Connecticut House of Representatives from 2007 to 2011, representing the state's second district in Bethel, Danbury and Redding. He was defeated for re-election on November 2, 2010.

Bartlett was raised in Redding and graduated from Redding Public Schools, before earning a B.A. in political science from the University of Connecticut.

He was elected a state representative in 2006, defeating Republican Phil Gallagher by 4,112 votes (54 percent) to 3,524 (46 percent). In 2008, Bartlett was re-elected to a second term, polling 54% — a margin of 945 votes. In 2010, Bartlett faced Republican Dan Carter and was defeated.

He had previously run in 2002 and 2004, losing on both occasions to Republican Hank Bielawa. He lost by over 450 votes in 2002, but the 2004 result was exceptionally close — Bartlett lost by just 87 votes, with 49.6 percent of the vote to Bielawa's 50.4 percent.

For over a decade, Bartlett has owned and operated his own mortgage company. He is the owner of Connecticut First Capitol in Bethel as well as a restaurant in Hartford. Bartlett is no longer with the mortgage company he owned and operated, and now works for the National Black Justice Coalition, a non-profit dedicated to ending racism and homophobia by empowering black lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people.

He raised two sons, the children of his deceased uncle and aunt. Now 21 and 19 years old and both attending community college in Connecticut, they came to live with him when they were 11 and 9 respectively.

Bartlett is gay. Although his district is 96 percent white, Bartlett is African American. He served for a time as the country's only openly gay black state legislator, a distinction he lost when Simone Bell was elected to the Georgia House of Representatives in December 2009.

My Personal Inspiration: B. Scott

As the month of February continues I will continue to highlight individuals who have personally inspired me to be the individual that I am. Many people that have inspired me of color are in the arts, entertainment, and beauty world; however I am inspired in so many other ways that range from health backgrounds, political, and athletic. The next individual would have to be one of the first rising internet gaylebrities that I can think of and is still going strong. I have had the opportunity to meet this diva several times and I really do think that he deserves all the recognition he receives and really want to give him a special honor for black history month. Thank you B. Scott for all the wonderfulness you have done for our community and holding it down for all gay men of color.


B. Scott, (born Brandon Scott Sessoms on March 21, 1981) is an American television personality, radio show host and internet celebrity who is best known for his YouTube videoblogs and website lovebscott.com.
Sessoms, as B. Scott, who is openly gay, has become a popular internet personality through his visibility on YouTube and his personal website, lovebscott.com, which primarily focuses on the five pillars of Pop culture: Celebrity News, Fashion, Music, Nightlife, and Miscellaneous Entertainment. The website's intent is to approach entertainment and celebrity news with a positive spin. The name lovebscott.com was selected in an effort to give his website a readily-identifiable personality with the mission of conveying a positive outlook. In May 2007, B. Scott started incorporating YouTube videos into his website to personally connect with his readers. The videos include personal observations, celebrity news, musical performances, political commentary, interviews and messages of encouragement to the audience. The videos are produced out of B. Scott's Los Angeles residence. The YouTube site maintains a subscriber base of over 90,000, and has won numerous awards for viewership and subscriptions. B. Scott has won the Best Video Blog by The Black Weblog Awards in 2007 and 2008. In January 2008, B. Scott was selected by YouTube to become one of the company's partners.
In 2009, B. Scott created 'The B. Scott Show,' a talk/variety-style internet show that ran concurrent to the original videoblog. Interview subjects included celebrities and important figures in the LGBT community. Interviews are conducted in B. Scott's home and broadcast on both the YouTube channel and the website. Celebrities interviewed have included Ne-Yo, Ashanti, Eva Marcille, LeToya Luckett, Mariah Carey, Jordin Sparks, and Chilli (of TLC).
B. Scott’s YouTube channel has led to recognition from numerous celebrities. Popular blogger Perez Hilton in 2007 named B. Scott his “Favorite New YouTuber”. In addition, on June 19, 2009, Academy Award winner Jamie Foxx declared on his Sirius Satellite Radio channel “The Foxxhole”, “I love B. Scott. He’s very attractive. He looks like a cross between Prince, Rosario Dawson and Lenny Kravitz.” This unsolicited acclaim helped open B. Scott to a new level of recognition.

B. Scott is one of the first black gay internet gaylebrities to cross over into mainstream entertainment with appearances on The Tyra Banks Show and on the Oxygen Television Network. With all of his hard work and dedication this is one gaylebrity that is not going anywhere anytime soon.

Personal Inspiration: Byron Lars

Walking into a room where everything is beautiful and the astonishing fashion that is transpiring my mood was created by someone who started like us all. Today I want to introduce you to a very talented individual who I had the opportunity to experience first hand his beautiful work on last Friday as New York City kicked off Fashion Week. Byron Lars has been mentioned in many fashion schools and magazines; however he has fallen under many of our radars. On today I would like to allow you to learn a little more about the man who has dressed our very own first lady Michelle Obama, Disney’s first black princess Anika Noni Rose, Dakota Fanning, and many others.

Byron Lars started designing under his own label in 1991 with a small collection of sportswear focusing on what Lars refers to as "twisted American classics." Taking inspiration from such unlikely sources as his grandfather's hunting jacket, Byron crossbreeds it with a "Dior New Look" proportion to create a Dutchess of Windsor meets Field and Stream hybrid.

Juxtapositions such as above, or as in taking a men's cotton dress shirt and then distorting it to the point of resembling a Dorothy Lamour sarong, have become Byron Lars' trademark. "When edgy fashion is steeped in something familiar, it becomes far less alienating to the consuming public," says Lars.

After only his second season in business, Women's Wear Daily hailed Byron as "Rookie of the Year." His line was immediately snapped up by such prestigious retailers as Bergdorf Goodman, Saks Fifth Avenue, Neiman Marcus and Bloomingdale's as well as one hundred other specialty stores throughout the U.S. along with some distribution in the U.K. and France.

"I saw it a few days ago and was blown out of the water," exclaims Kal Ruttenstein, senior vice president and fashion director of Bloomingdale's referring to the premier fall collection of Lars. "He has the freshest point of view of all the young American designers."

Byron's range of designs became most apparent in his Seventh on Sixth runway presentations in which he created accessories as mere fashion show props, only to attract the attention of licensees in handbags, furs and hats. His notoriety also led to his designing a limited edition of designer Barbie dolls for Mattel.

By the contractual end of his licensees, Byron chose to direct his energy away from the designer collection and focus on a contemporary line and pricing structure. "I wanted it to be more about the clothes and less about the 'hype'," says Lars. This redirection was the beginning of "Byron Lars Beauty Mark." Initially a cotton Lycra shirting based offering, Beauty Mark took its cue from the shirts and shirt dresses of the previous collection that put the designer on the map (only this time, without the lofty price point). Since its inception, Beauty Mark has enjoyed eight years of success and is now expanding its product line to include knits, sportswear and dresses in addition to the chic and sexy shirts for which the line is highly sought after.

Personal Inspiration: Merrell Hollis

So in honor of Black History Month I have decided to recognize individuals that have inspired me on a personal level. Each Monday of the month I have selected a different person who I have had a personal experience with and are most likely very involved in our community. The first individual that I would like to recognize is a make-up artist who is truly an amazing talent, humble, and has inspired my own creativity and talents in the artistry world.

From runway to print; from stage to screen, the colorful expertise of Merrell Hollis brushes the faces of the famous.

Merrell is currently Key Groomer for Bad Boy Entertainment. Not only is he on call for Sean 'P. Diddy' Combs, he is responsible for the make-up and grooming of Bad Boy artists.

From Fall 2004 through Spring 2005, Merrell was the Key Make-up Artist for 'Full Plate', a series on the new lifestyle & entertainment channel, TV One.

Other television programs on which Merrell's artistry has been displayed are Oprah, Americas Next Top Model, Entertainment Tonight, MTV's Video Music Awards, TRL, The Early Show, Ambush Makeover and numerous BET shows.

Music videos for Ludacris, Snoop Dogg, Nelly, G-Unit and 112 are just a few in which his creative talents have been featured.

For nearly a decade, Merrell honed his skills with various upscale clients such as Paul Mitchell Hair Care System, Saks Fifth Avenue, Clinique Cosmetics, MAC Cosmetics, Bobbi Brown, Lancome, Borghese and Versace.

His work has been showcased in publications such as GQ, Rolling Stone, Vanity Fair, VIBE, Essence and Men's Fitness.

Merrell earned a degree in Fashion Marketing Design from American Inter-Continental University. He also studied esthetician/skin care at the International School of Skin and Nails.

Most recently you can see Merrell's work daily on the Wendy Williams Show.



Here is where Nathan Seven Scott and I had the opportunity to recognize him as Man of the Month. It was very exciting and Wendy Williams had great things to say about him as well.

Why is my eye twitching?

There are so many superstitions that I was raised on and the one that stands out in my mind now would have to be why and the hell my eye is twitching. My grandmother always told me that when your eye twitches someone is going to upset you and trust me when mine twitches everyone should clear their path.

Not all superstitions or myths are negative; some actually bring luck or money. It is said that if your right hand itches that you will receive money or if your left hand itches you can expect a letter. I don’t believe in all superstitions; however I do feel that many of them hold value and truth. Let’s just say my eye didn’t twitch today for fun, I am a little pissed… LOL. Don’t you just love old wise tales… LOL

Here are a list of some of the superstitions I was raised on:

-If your foot is swept by a broom? Going to Jail

-If you split a pole? Bad Luck

-If someone steps on the back of your foot? Bad Luck

-If your foot itches? You will be visiting strange land

-If your ears ring? Someone is talking about you

Share some of the ones you may have heard

A New Me

Recently I took my very first trip to Santo Domingo and I had such an amazing time, I decided that with all the stress that life has offered many of us in 2010 that I wanted to do something for me in 2011. I wanted to go somewhere where I was not known and I could just relax and it was the most relaxing experience that I have had in a very long time. While I was there my companion had lots of drama to happen to him that I will not go into extreme details on; however his negativity became weight on the entire trip. People if you are going through something you have to remember to look on the bright side and if someone is telling you to keep positive, look on the bright side, or that everything will turn out okay; then you need to do just that and stop complaining to the world. One motto I have is that if you cannot change it, don’t worry about it. This is so important because we get so upset over things that we CANNOT change.

Readers I also want to stress the value of friendships, many times we react to the world as if the world owes us something. My father use to say this to me and I was very upset because I didn’t know I viewed life like that; however I did. I thought the world was suppose to be kind to me and that is true; however try to be kind to the world and it will be kind back. In the midst of every situation we can always find positivity and learn from the experience.

Here recently I have been tired of playing the good guy in business, relationships, and friendships. Many times people look at you and they just think that they can run you over and you will not do anything to stand up for yourself and I am really tired of it. It is not your responsibility to stand there and let others misuse you or take advantage of you. I challenge you to stand up for yourself and do what is best for you sometimes.

From this trip I learned that it is a new dawn, a new day, and a new Dwight! For now own watch your step, because you will get the pure truth and honesty from me, I am not going to be the individual that simples smiles and grins. Sometimes you have to be selfish and really love and choose yourself first. Going forward when someone has drama I will just point them to this entry, because I will not waste another second in life trying to lead the world’s horses to water to drink.

Create your GREATNESS!

What is the NOH8 Campaign?

Many of my followers have asked me what exactly the picture is of the symbol on the face and the white T-Shirt?

Well this blog post is for you...

On November 4, 2008 Proposition 8 passed in California, amending the state Constitution to ban same-sex marriage. The defeat provoked a groundswell of initiative within the GLBT community at a grassroots level, with many new political and protest organizations being formed in response.

The NOH8 Campaign is a photographic silent protest created by celebrity photographer Adam Bouska (http://www.bouska.net) and partner Jeff Parshley in direct response to the passage of Proposition 8. Photos feature subjects with duct tape over their mouths, symbolizing their voices being silenced by Prop 8 and similar legislation around the world, with "NOH8" painted on one cheek in protest.

Nearly two years since its inception, the NOH8 Campaign has grown to over 5,500 faces and continues to grow at an exponential rate. The campaign began with portraits of everyday Californians from all walks of life and soon rose to include politicians, military personnel, newlyweds, law enforcement, artists, celebrities, and many more.

The NOH8 Campaign has received overwhelming support from around the world, appearing on various local and national news programs and publications. The images are currently being used on various social networking sites to spread the message of equality, predominantly Facebook and Twitter. Eventually the images are expected to be compiled for a large-scale media campaign.
I was really excited to have the opportunity to add my face to this silent protest that really does show that a picture is really worth 1000 WORDS!!!!

Meet "The Gaye Family"

Sometimes when I discover new things I cannot wait to share them with YOU and Richard Pelzer AKA Lil Mogul... One thing that I love about our generation is that we can all create our own entertainment and communicate with the creative mind behind the projects. As many of you know I am the mind behind Christopher Street TV, Dane Joseph has did a remarkable job with Drama Queens, and now we have a new online sitcom called "The Gaye Family"!!!

'The Gaye Family" follows a dad a mom and two teens who live in Los Angeles California and challanges the typical family roles that are given to the members of the family and it will have you in stiches. I am so excited I must watch it again!!!! Enjoy and check out their youtube page to watch the other episodes!!!
www.youtube.com/thegayefamily

Merry Christmas from The Future Forward 2010

Phaedra and Apollo are ReDICKulous!!!

So I don’t usually do television recaps or discuss what is happening on the hottest reality shows; however I have finally jumped on board with the Real Housewives of Atlanta band wagon. On last night I really enjoyed the show and when the Southern Belle Phaedra Parks brought up how she knows of a stripper that can give himself head, I thought about the FlavaMen Blatino Award nominee ReDICKulous and during the Watch What Happens Live after show Phaedra confirmed my guess by actually confirming ReDICKulous’ name… hmmm so of course every Tom, Dick, and Dwight Allen O'Neal is hoping that this confirms that Phaedra actually met her husband Apollo Nida while at Club 708 while ReDICKulous was performing and then ReDICKulous introduced the two, because Apollo was there getting over his ex boyfriend who left him while Apollo was locked up in jail and then Apollo was over men for a while and decided to swim with real fishes for a minute, until he meets the Gaylebrity Dwight Allen O'Neal… LOL… Okay wishful thinking, but on a serious note I would like to congratulate ReDICKulous for becoming a household name… Baby you have made it, you didn’t win that FlavaMen Blatino Award… But you are now known across the country for that wonderful talent that you have… sucking your own… you know the rest.

As a sidebar I do want to add, if you know any information about Apollo swimming in the MAN SEA, because he clearly stated (uncomfortably) that he has never gotten in the man pond, please let me know. Now of course I want this information, because I am a mermaid out in the MAN SEA, hell it’s too many of the gays in the pond, but the sea is so big you need guidance. So guide me to where I can find Apollo out in this big SEA… LOL… Enjoy your week and Merry Christmas everyone!

ADDED BONUS*** 7 THINGS I noticed that I will not comment on... But 7 THINGS you can!!!

1. Phaedra Cannot Add... How was she in Law School and Apollo was in High School when they met and they are 4 years apart.

2. Body Language

3. What convicted felon can then be released from prison to set up companies? And why Apollo job sound like a hustle; another reason we turned on. Everybody wants a bad boy.

4. Did Phaedra and Apollo seem coached?

5. Who in the LGBT community does Apollo remind you of? He might have been a guest on my show... LOL

6. Do you think ReDICKulous will be performing at the Bachelorette party?

7. Do you think Lawrence's friend who he was referring to that knew Apollo was ReDICKulous???

My Date with a Matchmaker

So a few weeks ago I had a meeting with Charlie The Matchmaker so he could assist me in finding a romance. It was really funny in deciding to participate in his services, because I thought it might be weird to meet with a matchmaker; however it was really like meeting with a life coach. I originally met Charlie at a networking event I was attending for Next Magazine and when I learned about his services I agreed to meet with him to talk about either hiring his services or becoming a pool boy. After the meeting I decided that right now I would only commit to be a pool boy, because many of the questions he asked me allowed me to really reflect on what I may be seeking and had me ask myself additional questions about my Mr. Right.

If you do decide to hire a matchmaker he is excellent because he is confidential, has a great catalogue of men to choose from, and last he really does make you get real. By real I mean he asks tough questions that you cannot lie about and it makes you be honest with him and most importantly yourself. He asked me questions about my career, lifestyle, and about my past relationships. As you all know I recently told you that I was over my ex and he put me to the test and made sure that I was in a place where I was ready to meet a new love interest. I am so excited that I met with Charlie, who I may add looks like Ryan from The A-List New York, because I am able to really focus on what I am looking for in my future. At a very young age I created goals for myself and many of them are off track and I never sat down to reevaluate my future in certain areas. After my meeting with my matchmaker I was able to go home and update my personal goals and aspirations and I am very excited about the greatness that I am creating for myself, with the guidance of God of course. If you would like to find out more information about Charlie The Matchmaker you can check out his website at www.charliethematchmaker.com

Melody Set Me Free Part 4

I hope you have enjoyed all of Melody Set Me Free... The series that follows the rising career of a singer and the shadiness that goes on in the record business. This comedy has been a sensation across the nation and now hitting film online. Enjoy!

Happy Thanksgiving to ALL My Friends of The Future Forward

Another year has come and gone and The Future Forward would like to say THANKS to all of our friends, family and followers for the support over this year. We will each 50,000 viewers by the end of the year and we are very excited!!!



Nathan, Cornelius, Dwight and I have share something very special. I am honored to be working with them and cherish our creative efforts. We have been blessed to have both Zolra and Jeanine join us this year to add to the EXCITEMENT. So, we would say from our Future Forward Family to yours...

Thank you for being a friend
Traveled down the road and back again
Your heart is true, you’re a pal and a confidant.
And if you through a party
Invited everyone you ever knew
You would see the biggest gift would be from me
And the card attached would say thank you for being a friend.

Melody Set Me Free Part 3

I hope you have been enjoying all the installments of "Melody Set Me Free," this week check me out as I guest star as the lead singer of the girl girl group En Strobe... Enjoy and share with all your friends!


Patience and Grace hit the recording studio together, Mama O'brien's secrets are revealed, En Strobe auditions for KK Queen, Patience and Bill share a passionate good-bye kiss.

Why me and My Ex Did not WORK out!

So have you ever asked yourself why your relationships don't work out?

Well something I have learned is when you are in something it is really difficult to really figure out what you are doing wrong and when it comes to the heart you may not be honest with yourself and others. I am very aware of this, because I just recently completely got over someone and I am able to reflect on all of my relationships and figure out what I was doing wrong.

One thing that I am very excited about is that I have not jumped back into a relationship, when I got over my previous ex I soon after met someone else and started dating and I was not able to reflect and learn from my past. This time I am actually looking over what did not work and it feels great, because I am able to be honest with myself and prepare for true love.

Here are a few tips that I have found actually help...

DON'T!!!!!!

Cater to his every need. There’s a great chance that if you do this – cater to every whim of a man, he’s going to stick around. But it’s not because you are the person for him, it’s because you’ll do anything he wants. NEVER cook a man dinner every night. NEVER do his laundry if you are dating. NEVER clean his apartment for him and NEVER run over to his place simply because he wants sex.

DON'T!!!!!!
Change your appearance for him. If you he doesn't like the way you dress, your hair, body, make-up or shoes, don’t convert. If you do you are showing him that you are easily manipulated. Men like a partner with there own mind, and if you are too masculine (I doubt) or effeminate it's not going to work by changing what you wearing, you are just not compatible. Don’t change who you are just because there’s something about you he doesn’t automatically like.

DON'T!!!!!!!
Act like his mother or sponsor. Don’t treat any man you are dating like a child. This means no calling him all the time. Don’t ask him where he’s been if you haven’t heard from him in a while and never tell him to button up his coat if it’s cold outside. He already has a mother, he doesn’t want you to be one too.

DON'T!!!!!!
Assume he knows what you want. No one can read minds. No one minds operate the same way yours does. If you expect a man to know what you want from him, you’ll always be disappointed.
DON'T!!!!!!

Be afraid to say NO. If you are not ready for something or DON'T want to do something. Say NO.

ALWAYS!!!!!!!

Love ME 1st!!!!!!