Friday Dare--What I Did to Make Someone Smile Today (Including Myself)!

So the inimitable @ShellyKramer threw the gauntlet this morning. She issued a dare on her V3im blog, wherein she challenged us to make someone smile today. Not being one to back down on something this easy, I went right out and did it, and I have photos to prove it. I went to the KC Community Blood Center and offered up a donation. And not just for the free Oreos and apple juice. I insisted on documenting my experience throughout. This darling woman tried to duck out of the photo, but I told her how cute she looked and begged her to pose for me. My donation made her happy, and it made me happy. Perhaps not quite what Shelly had in mind, but I've been meaning to donate for a while and laziness is my only excuse. Thank you, Kansas City Community Blood Center, for your efficiency, stellar employees (especially Elmo, who let me ask him if people ever make jokes about his name), and for getting me in & out so quickly, even though I didn't have an appointment.

Here's the rub, people: this cost me nothing, required ZERO effort on my part, took roughly 1/2 hour from start to finish (including paperwork), and best of all, gave me an excuse to chuck Jazzercise & Jillian today, as I've been instructed not to engage in any rigorous/strenuous activities for the next 24 hours. Can't beat that.

You may note I did not allow the superior Community Blood Center staff to photograph me, but rest assured you can tell it's me by the big feet clad in really old tennis shoes. I was kinda hoping all that blood might call hotties Eric and Bill out to play, or perhaps even the Cullens, but alas there were no bloodsuckers to be found. Damn it.

In a similar vein (pun absolutely intended), how can you spread the smiles today? I confess that I needed a smile today. I needed to feel worthy, good, and helpful. So I went out and did something about it. What can you do today---both for yourself AND for someone else?

Helen Jean Trillin, Grandmaw Extraordinaire: 1924-2005

Grandmaw (Helen) and my MIL, Carol, at our wedding, 12/05

Her name was Helen.
Grandmaw extraordinaire and mother of three.
Her cooking rivaled Julia Child's.
So tiny was she that I towered over her and worried I would
Crush her in her fragility; she was like a freshly picked flower--
Radiant, delicate, and beautiful.
Her smile could change my day from awful to amazing.

We both loved the color pink ("paaaank," she'd say it, smiling)
And once for my birthday she bought me a pink Kate Spade purse.
She let me call her Grandmaw too, though I was not her grandchild,
Just married to her grandson. But I considered it a privilege to play
The part of granddaughter, something she never had.

When Grandpaw died, she began her slow descent.
The greedy thief had been hiding, hovering in the shadows.
He leapt out suddenly, voracious, devouring all that was hers:
Memories, familiar faces, motor skills and even her personality.
Alzheimer's is a nasty, steadfast thief who quickly dives,
Pouncing on innocent victims and shredding their precious lives.

We visited her often. We tried everything.
But she was slipping away, her eyes lost, her mind locked.
Sometimes she'd come back to us, if only for a few minutes.
Still, we talked to her as if nothing was wrong,
As if she wasn't ill, as if there was no monster in the room.
Carrying on conversations with ourselves, or Grandmaw's shell.
Going through our own private Hell.

We told her of the babies thriving, finally, in my womb.
We told her she was going to be a Great Grandmaw.
Surely this news would wrestle her from the thief's jaws.
It did not. Then we told her I was carrying two girls.
We thrust my burgeoning belly in her face and planted her hands on it.
Nothing. The thief wouldn't release his hold for even one second.

Towards the end, we sat with her. Held her hands. A vigil.
Several times we thought it was over, but it wasn't.
And then, in that final moment when he took her, it seemed unreal.
I stepped out into the hallway to start making phone calls.
My voice mechanical, tears slipping down my cheeks.
Mad as ever at Alzheimer's, that wretched thief.

How can YOU help? How can YOU get involved?
If you are here in KC, go here to learn about our Memory Walk on 10/2. Walk with me (there is a 1-mile walk and a 3-mile walk, your choice)! I am desperate to get the word out, and there are plenty of ways to help. Even if you can't walk, you can do something as simple as putting a sign in your yard. Just ask me for one!

Please consider sponsoring me as I walk in Helen's honor (or donate to another walker you may know). You can find my personal fundraising page here.

Alternatively, it's easy to find a Memory Walk in your state/area. Locate one by going here. They are all taking place around the same time in October.

We all have causes we're passionate about. If Alzheimer's isn't one of yours, I encourage you to seek another out and find a way to become involved. What organizations or charities are special to you? There are so many groups out there that need our help. What are you waiting for?

Paying It Forward: Alzheimer's, Veronica's Voice, and Me.

(If you still haven't entered my Get Your Green On Giveaway, please check it out. You could win a monogrammed/personalized reusable tote from Lara @ La Plates! And if you can't wait or don't win, there's a discount code for you to grab while you're there!)

I've been paying it forward lately, doing good things for good people---because they deserve it, and because it comes back to me tenfold. It makes me feel better about myself. Sending good karma out into the world where it can float around, alight somewhere, only to flutter away and land again upon some other unsuspecting but deserving soul is a powerful and liberating feeling. I'm addicted.

We recently held our annual fundraiser for our local chapter of the Alzheimer's Association. It's called Memories in the Making, and it features watercolor paintings done by Alzheimer's patients in art therapy programs in KC & surrounding areas. The art is auctioned off and the funds raised go towards research, education, and programming. Because I'm on the board, I was lucky enough to preview the art ahead of time and decide which piece we'd bring home tell Hubs how talented all the artists were. I'd fallen in love with this particular piece by Ken Roberts:

"Day at the Beach" By Ken Roberts, 2009

Interestingly, Ken was born a twin in Wichita, KS, in 1936. He joined the Navy at 18 and four years later he began studying at KU, where he earned his BFA. He will tell you he is a photographer with 35 years of experience, but in his modest way, will deny that he is a painter. He worked for the Kansas City Star as both a layout artist and advertising art director, and for The Sun as creative director. He enjoys the beauty of nature and has said, "I have old fashioned ideas about art."

The auctioneers, the Nigro Brothers, were amazing and they allowed me to borrow a hat and pose for photos.

Me & The Father Load

Me with Jennifer and Liz who were some of our guests that night.

Then I had the privilege of meeting Ken Roberts, the artist (& Alzheimer's patient) himself. It was a moment I almost have no words for. I thought back to reading Still Alice, and back to the day Hubs' grandmother died--- the day I knew this was a cause I wanted to become heavily involved in. Hubs' grandmother succumbed to Alzheimer's while I was pregnant with the girls. Unfortunately she never got to meet her great-granddaughters, but I know they would have been bosom buddies. Helen and her husband, Ben, both treated me like I was their granddaughter. Helen is the one who dubbed our Mini Poodle, Monster, "The Mons Mons," a nickname that has stuck ever since. 

I got into a bidding war, but I was intent on winning this piece. And win I did, in more ways than one. It was a win for Ken, a win for Alzheimer's, a win for Helen, and for all the others who have suffered needlessly at the hands of this horrible disease. It was a night of celebration, of knowing we will never give up. We will not stop trying until we have a cure. It was a night where I felt like I was making a difference.

It was an emotional moment and I asked Ken if I could give him a hug. He indulged me.

He told me the painting was of his granddaughters. I choked up.

Then I began to blabber about my girls & how I fell in love with his painting months ago when I first saw it.

A Day at the Beach now has a prominent place in our foyer where everyone sees it when they walk in.

Then last week, my friend Shelly Kramer of V3 Integrated Marketing told me about a cause near & dear to her heart, Veronica's Voice. It's an organization dedicated to social change for American victims of commercial sexual exploitation (prostitution). Veronica's Voice helps encourage, empower, and educate them so that they can make lifestyle changes and heal their hearts and spirits. I was inspired and thanks to Shelly, I found their wish list on the site. I flew to Target and Dollar Tree and stocked up on shampoo, conditioner, toothpaste, toothbrushes, infant clothing, snacks, paper towels, and cleaning supplies. I called and set up a time to drop everything off. After I did so, I felt lighter and happier. I meant to take all my old magazines (Real Simple, Vogue, Elle, US Weekly, etc.) but I forgot, so I'm going to bring those to another type of shelter with some more things soon. I would love to volunteer there (or a gazillion other places), but until the girls start kindergarten, my free time is limited.

There is so much ugliness in the world sometimes I can't stand it. The least I can do is take one piece at a time and try to make it beautiful.

How do you pay it forward? How are you making a difference in the lives of others?

Funky Mama's BRAND NEW CD Giveaway Starts NOW!

Moms (& Dads), if you have little ones who love to groove, this giveaway is for you!

Funky Mama is a local kids' entertainer. She loves to play her guitar, "Candy," and rock out to tunes that make kids jump up and down. My girls can't get enough of her and two of her cd's are in my car at all times lest someone have a breakdown. Please go here and click on "video" to get a feel for her and see what the fuss is all about!

(isn't she adorable? She played for the girls' 4th birthday party and couldn't have been sweeter!)

Funky Mama has just released her newest cd, entitled "Sing," and has given me an extra copy to give away to one of my readers!  It includes 14 incredible tracks (which you can hear clips of on her site if you go here):

1. Sing!
2. Don't Shake the Box
3. Bananas Foster
4. Big Brother
5. Farmers' Children
6. Meet Me in the Mountains
7. Playdate
8. Gimme Sugar
9. Get Up Jam
10.  Hi-Yah
11. Squaretangle
12. Little Funky Mama
13. Every Happiness
14. Songbird

Here's how to enter:

Become a fan of Funky Mama on Facebook: 2 entries

Follow Funky Mama's Blog: 2 entries

Tweet about this giveaway with a link to this post: 2 entries (be sure to send me a link to your tweet and include my username in it @erinlynn76): 2 entries --you may tweet twice daily

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Follow my blog: 1 entry

Follow me on Twitter (@erinlynn76): 1 entry

Tell me why you deserve to win this giveaway: 1 entry

The winner will be chosen on Sunday, February 21, 2010 at 7:00 a.m. CST. GOOD LUCK!