You Have To Make The Call To Your Friends

The one thing that I really do love about myself is that I am a friendship person. I love having a lot of friends. I actually have more friends than I had when it comes to relationships. My relationships are not even in the double digits yet. I love meeting new people that could possibly develop into a friendship. There is no limit for me. I love anyone that I can have an amazing conversation with. I will admit that there are times when it can get a little out of control. You're wondering what this person is doing because you haven't heard from them in a long time, but I do my best to keep it together.

I will admit one thing. You can't become my friend easily. Even though I have many friends they will tell you it took some time for me to fully trust them. I had that smile on my face all the time but I did not let it go that far. There are some people in this world who pretends to be a friend, and ends up hurting you in the process. So I make my friends carefully. Also, I will only be your friend unless you want me to. I know I can't please everyone. A simple confession that you don't want to be friends is enough for me.

One day, I was sitting at the computer, getting some work done as usual. I looked around my office and started to feel very lonely. I am always by myself in my office, but it really dawned on me during this particular night. I browsed on Facebook and saw some familiar faces along with old friends. I haven't heard from some in days, weeks, months, and years.

Here I am with these large groups of friends, but I was still alone at the end of the day.

I finally summed up the courage to email a couple of them, just asking how they are and what they've been doing lately. Some of them didn't respond back, which made me a little sad. However, there were a group of people that responded to my emails. They said what they were doing and they were happy that I contacted them. A few of them missed the charm that I brought into their lives and wished that they could hang out with me again.

All of those responses brought happiness into my heart. I truly missed them, but I was afraid they didn't miss me and moved on with their lives. From the way it looked, I received mixed responses. Some of them didn't respond, showing that they moved on and I've been removed from their lives. But there are some that miss me, just as much as I miss them.

I want this to be a message to everyone who reads me. We can't wait all the time for the other person to get in contact with you. Sometimes you have to send an email or dial a number to hear from them. I have a large group of friends and I wouldn't trade them for any person in the world. Even if I make new friends they will always be a part of life. I'll just have to find a way to slow down time.

So to everyone that reads this there comes a time in your life when you have to make the call. If you truly care about that person, instead of wondering how they're feeling, get in contact with them. Show them that you care. Let them hear your voice again.

You're In Love With Your Best Friend. Now What?

There comes a time in each of our lives when the ultimate question pops up once in our heads. One day, you will begin to look at your best friend in a different way. There are a couple of images that has never appeared in your mind before when it came to your best friend. Whenever they walk past you, you begin to get tiny butterflies floating in your stomach. What you're feeling is the ultimate debate.

You are in love with your best friend and you don't know what to do with it. You don't know if you should tell them or not tell them. It's the number one debate when it comes to friendships in our society. The main reason the question has become debatable is due to the fact that you don't know what is going to be the outcome after you ask your best friend the big question.

Across the world, best friends have been asked this question, and it ended in mixed results. On one side, the best friend turns out has been feeling the same way. It takes the stress off and the two of them ended up being together. Then on another side, the question completely devastated the individual and it resulted in the friendship being over for good. There are some friends that haven't spoken to each other in years.

When it comes to life, your best friend is the person that knows you inside and out. Even if you are close to your parents, this one individual knows you inside and out. They have known you for years. They have your back even when they know you are wrong. It's the one person that gives you the ultimate attention and you give it back to them in return.

But there comes a time in our lives when the ultimate question arises. The two of you have hung out long enough to have these feelings brewing inside. You may love this person, but falling in love has become a complete shocker in your brain. Now you are stuck, not knowing what to do with these feelings. Will the question transform this friendship into something better, or will it erupt like a volcano and burn to a crisp.

When it comes to friendships, what do you do when you find out that you're in love with your best friend. Do you tell them or not tell them?

Zolra's Corner: The LGBT Connection

One thing I love about being an 18 year old openly gay male is that I have a long journey ahead of me. I don't think I haven't even started yet. I think I am still in the car waiting for the engine to work with me. Because of this, I have a whole bunch of material to create. Day to day life is what keeps me outside to work on several projects.

I consider myself a socialite. I love being around my friends and new people. Each of their lives are 10% similar, but they are 90% different. Whenever there is an event coming up that interest me, I would go there in a second, especially when I'm invited by a friend. I do have my limits. None of my friends know where I live. We're not that close yet.

One night, I went out with my best friend for a night at the club. It's the first time I've been out in a long time due to my crazy schedule. We went to different clubs and danced the night away. It feels great hanging out with your friends. Relationships are special too, but friends stay longer according million dollar socialites and business people. Once midnight finally arrived, the night was more interesting and mysterious than I thought.

The two of us happened to run into our ex-boyfriends that same night. One was drunk out of his mind while the other looked like he could handle three bottles of any beverage. Then I looked on the other side of the street. One of my former co-workers were hanging around this club I usually walk around. My ex pointed at him and they gave each other a huge bear hug. Me and my best friend walked a few steps back. We were completely shocked at what was going on. Turns out my co-worker used to date him just like how my ex tried to make moves at my best friend before I knew any of them.

I walked away feeling confused. One thing I always try to do is to make my personal and professional life private. If I ever dated anyone, it will be someone that doesn't know anybody I know and I don't know anybody he knows. I tried the whole dating connections thing. It always worked out for the worst.

Me being a fan of the horror, thriller, science fiction, and fantasy genres, I couldn't help but to study this weird connection that is going on right in front of our eyes.

Something I've noticed is that the LGBT community are connected like an invisible rope, especially in the performing arts. We do have heterosexual friends that love us, but gay folks are rising above them in numbers. All of my friends are in the film/television, theatre, fashion, and music industry. In some ways, that is great. I love creativity. I have been attracted to that for a long time. I'm sure that's one reason why I've dated people in the arts.

I love having friends in Maryland and New York. However, one tiny problem with that is that everybody knows everybody. When you want to get to know somebody professionally or personally, it becomes very uncomfortable because they know people around you and you know people around them. If you don't like somebody it will be hard to get rid of them due to the connection.

After me and my best friend left the club with huge questions ringing in our heads, it got me thinking.

In the LGBT community, does having large connections be a positive thing, or will it lead us to a negative, emotional, downward spiral most of the time?